Criticism in Relationships

Habitual criticism can corrode the very foundation of your relationship.

Criticism in close relationships starts out low key, but generally escalates over time, creating a downward spiral of resentment.

Often when Couples have a complaint about each other it can take the form of criticism in which you attack your partner’s character. Often a person is not aware they are being critical. If you find yourself using the following word:-

“always,” “never,” “constantly,” or “all the time”

These are the words that are often used when a partner is frustrated or upset but then what the other partner hears is what is wrong with them. They will probably respond with statements about what you do wrong and this then leaves both parties feeling unheard and even more upset.

Criticism is prevalent in relationships because it is a way for us to express our concerns without being vulnerable. Relationships cannot be successful from a place of defence, you need to be vulnerable for the relationship to work. If you can shift your perspective from what you don’t like externally, (your partner’s behaviour) to what is happening internally, how you feel and what you need), your partner will be able to hear you and can then meet your needs.

If you are struggling with criticism in your relationship why not contact Hope Springs who is able to assist and guide you and your partner to give feedback. Leaving out the criticism whilst speaking openly and honestly is more beneficial for each of you to get your needs met.