My Approach
When to Start Working Together in Counselling
I understand…
on the outside you are functional as you keep up with work or daily responsibilities but inside, you feel emotionally isolated and exhausted.
You find yourself thinking…
“Our relationship shouldn’t be this hard,” or
“Nothing I do will ever be enough.”
Feeling unseen, unheard, and disconnected - it’s looks like you are the only one trying to make things work.
Emotionally, you carry a heavy mix of despair, overwhelm, and a sense of being trapped. Your feelings often result in you shutting down, withdrawing, or you just people-please to avoid conflict.
Despite all this, you are longing to feel connected again to your partner, to yourself, and to the hope that love and emotional intimacy are still possible.
My Counselling Approach
Couples therapy works best when we treat the relationship itself as the client. This means I am not trying to fix one person, but I want to understand how the two of you are interacting, reacting, and influencing each other because that’s where real transformation happens.
I don’t take sides, I slow things down so you can both feel heard, understood, and grounded. We move away from blame and toward curiosity, compassion, and clarity.
I use researched backed methods and combine proven techniques like Gottman Theory, Attachment Theory and Mind Body Practices to offer practical tools and strategies that will help couples to take actionable steps.
I understand how vulnerable this process can feel. My role is to support you both with care, neutrality, and deep respect for your individual experiences
Feeling Stuck, Yet Hoping for Change
What Working Together Can Feel Like
When we work together, here’s what begins to shift:
You start to understand each other — instead of trying to win.
You stop walking on eggshells — and start having honest conversations without fear of making things worse.
You feel safe enough to speak your truth and be met with care, not defensiveness.
You begin to recognize your patterns, shift them, and connect in new ways.
You stop feeling like you're the only one carrying the relationship.
